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On Quitting Facebook

A few weeks ago, I wrote about not having internet. When I told a friend about this, she suggested we log out of Facebook for the month of June and spend more time being intentional in our lives. Needing to change some habits, I was in as my mental state needed a break from constant connection. Admittedly, I didn't know if I could do it. However, as the days passed, the easier it became to stay off and my mental state became better too. Here's why:

1) Comparison

When scrolling through the highlight reels of my newsfeed, I always compared my life to the highlight reels of everyone else's lives. They have better, more fun jobs. They have so many more friends. They always did such fun things. They took better, more frequent vacations. They were never lonely and bored. They have more money to do fun things. You know what though?! We absolutely cannot compare our lives to others, especially with what we see on Facebook or Instagram. Everyone struggles with something. No one has a perfect life. We just like to make sure people think we do. Hear me on this: Each and every one of us is put here for a purpose and if you are still breathing, God is not through with you yet and God is writing a beautiful story in your life. 

2) The feeling of being Uninvited
People are always posting pictures of friend groups doing something fun and being in community. It got to the point where I thought everyone hangs out (without me) all the time. Frequently, I wondered what was wrong with me and why I was never invited to do anything or why I seemed to be forgotten about. After not seeing that for a month, I don't have those thoughts as frequently. Life is not one big party and I have people in my life who care about me and I care about them. Together, we have each others' backs through the good times and bad. That's what matters!  God places the right people in our lives at the very right time. Sometimes they are around for a season and sometimes they are around for life. Spend time investing in those life-giving relationships and never for one moment doubt your worthiness. 

After my friend and I logged back into Facebook in July, we both admitted we didn't miss much at all. We knew what was going on in the lives of our people without needing Facebook.

I will not quit Facebook completely but I will be spending a lot less time on it. My mental health is more important.

What have you quit?

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